The Lady L Experience

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It took an unexpected tragedy to transition my life.  That transition took me down a road of self-discovery and rediscovery.  I begin questioning everything.  From what had I done with my life up until that point.  Ultimately what I ended up discovering was a new version of myself.

 

That tragedy forced me to stop and assess.  I had just turned 36 and a huge turning point in a girl's life.  I was on the cusp of entering the last phase of my thirties.  Preparing myself mentally that 40 was around the corner.

 

I never was the girl that sat and planned out her life by society's standards. You know the list…by this age you should be married and this age kids.  Nope, I wasn’t that girl.  I did however have certain career ambitions and dreams.  I learned coming out of college the quick realities of the real world to get there.

 

Throughout my life, I extended my hand to help others along the way.  I must admit my kind heart caused me to overextend at times.  Eventually, I found myself burnt out with nothing left to give to myself.  Then tragedy hit all at once when a close friend passed away untimely.

 

Honestly, their passing was the RESET I needed to assess my own foundation.  I had to take a hard look at my life from my career, friends, inner circle and village.  Were they in alignment with my goals, life plans and the lifestyle I wanted for myself? Were they adding value to my happiness, joy and peace? Sadly some of the answers were NO!

 

I begin to understand why I had hit such a stalemate in life.  I journeyed on a much-needed break.  I needed some time to heal from the grief (the loss of a friend) and rediscover LaTonya.

 

There comes a time in life when you have to put yourself first and do what’s best for you! No matter what others may think about your choice.  If you need a break take that break.  I’ve always been a confident individual.  Especially when it comes to owning who I am and self-expression.  Throughout life, I found I was always playing the role of helping others handle unexpectant crises with care.  As well as owning their inner confidence to show up as themselves. I came to a point where I realized if I’m going to serve in this capacity with my time and devotion. Then it has to serve me as well.

 

I developed my At Her Best Style program to encourage women to put themselves first.  While helping them rediscover themselves after setback and tragic events. Through the art of self-discovery, style, self-expression and self-empowerment!